Hi, my name is Vicki, and I’m not what you might consider an average 51 year old woman. I’m 4’11, I hike, I run, I do triathlons (okay, “mini” triathlons, but those still count!), I ride a long board, do Crossfit and play the drums.
I am lucky enough to have raised 3 incredible humans. My 2 girls have grown into beautiful, strong, independent young women and my son just recently became a United States Marine. I am fiercely proud of each of them and, as a mom, I could not have asked for more!
I have been married for 25 years. My husband was diagnosed with Primary Progressive Multiple Sclerosis in 2006 and is currently confined to a bed and a wheelchair. I am his caregiver 24/7.
When my last child moved out on her own recently I was thrown completely out of my element. I knew it was coming of course, but definitely didn’t realize just how difficult it would be. I had been raising kids since I was 23, and everyone tells you how to be a parent but no one talks about what to do once you no longer have that as your identity. I felt an utter lack of self, I had no idea who to be without my kids around, I was at a loss, and I was sad.
Maybe it’s just me, but when I was a kid growing up it seemed like there was a stigma about a female turning 50 (female mind you, I’ve never heard the same stigma associated with men), as if somehow the best years of our lives are spent and now all I have to look forward to was maintaining the house and working until I could retire – ? At least I felt like that’s what I was facing.
But, fortunately, this is the 21st century…women in their 40’s, 50’s, 60’s and beyond are STARTING their own businesses! A good amount of those are multi-million dollar businesses (and – news flash – you don’t need an MBA or college degree to do it!). Women my age are running ultra marathons, competing in the Crossfit games, participating in roller derby, and hey, some are even starting blogs!
So one afternoon a thought struck me: How about, instead of seeing it as “What do I do now?”, I view it as “What should I do FIRST?!” And that’s what takes me to here, I’m on a mission to see what I can do and find out my limits!
So if you can relate, maybe you also have found yourself in a place of “What do I do now?”, here’s to hoping you stick around and maybe together we can discover that LIFE might actually BEGIN at 50!