Happy Monday strong humans 🙂
I know your time is valuable so let’s get into it.
How do you measure your self-worth?
Is it your hustle? What you can do for others? What you can produce?
When I was in my late teens and twenties I was a workaholic.
I went to high school during the day and worked at a fast-food restaurant at night, sometimes until closing, which could be as late as 1:00 am.
After graduation I got a “real”, 8-5 office job, I started as a receptionist but quickly proved myself to be a very hard worker and moved up quickly. In order to impress the ‘higher ups’ I started coming in early and staying late. I even worked weekends.
My bosses loved me, and I was making good money.
I lived like this, even after having my first baby, for several years.
My first marriage ended after just two years (to be fair we were both still children when we first got married).
In my early thirties, I remarried and had two more babies. By then my focus had shifted. I not only had to prove myself worthy to my coworkers and bosses, I also needed to prove myself worthy to my kids and my husband, and his family, while still working full time.
Shortly after that, my husband became sick, and I felt I had to prove myself as a caregiver.
Looking back at this makes me feel exhausted.
In a nutshell, I’ve lived my whole life feeling that I was only as good as the work I could produce, and what I could do for other people.
Because I’ve only known how to view my worthiness through their eyes.
Only their approval of me mattered, mine meant nothing.
And I feel like a lot of women are living their lives the same way.
Are you one of them?
Unfortunately, the answer isn’t as easy as repeating a mantra, or shoving down your current thoughts and swapping them for a “happy” one.
So what does it take to truly acknowledge our self-worth? To believe it?
First, we need to look at why we ever questioned ourselves in the first place.
Who told us, or got us to believe, that we weren’t worthy?
And why did we choose to believe it?
However it started, it’s in the past, and we don’t have to believe it anymore. We’re adults now, and we get to choose whatever thoughts we want to think now. Intentionally.
Do you want to believe you’re only as good as someone else thinks you are? Do they know you better than you do? Or do you want to finally believe in your own self-worth?
We live and breathe. Our brain contains chemicals that can generate enough electricity to power a lightbulb!
It takes six muscles just to operate the human eye.
We are capable of loving others. Our children. Our parents. Our siblings. Ourselves.
We are walking miracles. We are born being worthy of love. And that never changes.
The only thing that changes are our thoughts about ourselves.
But we can change them back.
Find that worthiness in yourself, it’s there, I promise you! You just need to see it, and accept it.
And if you need any help with that just let me know. No matter who you are, or what you feel you’ve done to lose it, I GUARANTEE I can show it to you 🙂
Don’t waste one more day giving away your power, your worth.
Decide to take it back.
You’re worth the work. I promise. ❤️