Picture by author It was my first time playing drums in front of other people, and I was terrified. I was 46 years old and had been playing for just a few years. Up until then, I had only played alone in my garage. Then one day my brother-in-law challenged me to join a programContinue reading “How To Feel Like You Belong – Finding Confidence in Any Situation”
You Can’t Get a Positive Result From a Negative Emotion
Stop trying to shame yourself into success Photo by Man Chung on Unsplash When was the last time you celebrated yourself after a failure? Or gave yourself a pat on the back when you didn’t achieve your goal? I know it sounds counterintuitive…doesn’t rewarding failure only encourage more failure? Maybe you’ve set a goal toContinue reading “You Can’t Get a Positive Result From a Negative Emotion”
It’s Like Spring Cleaning, But For Your Brain
Photo by Leohoho on Unsplash It’s Like Spring Cleaning – But For Your Brain Here in California, we’re beginning to have faith that spring is on the way…the temps are beginning to inch upwards and we’re seeing fewer and fewer rainy days (contrary to popular belief it does rain in California). It’s the one timeContinue reading “It’s Like Spring Cleaning, But For Your Brain”
Are You Still Choosing To Believe The Worst About Yourself?
(You can stop that now) Photo by Bekah Russom on Unsplash When I was around 14 years old I shared a room with my sister. It wasn’t a big room but I enjoyed moving my bed and dresser around just to change things up whenever I got bored with the layout. The bed was heavyContinue reading “Are You Still Choosing To Believe The Worst About Yourself?”
You’re Born An Individual, And You Die An Individual. You Deserve to Know Yourself During the In–Between
Caution: Tough love ahead Photo by Hiroshi Kimura on Unsplash If you’re in your middle age of life you may have been raised believing (consciously or unconsciously) that your value was determined by the opinions of the people around you. Pre-internet that meant your dad, your mom, siblings, friends, teachers, and co-workers. If they likedContinue reading “You’re Born An Individual, And You Die An Individual. You Deserve to Know Yourself During the In–Between”
Lost in Negativity: Rediscovering the Habit of Positive Thinking
Photo by Ümit Bulut on Unsplash We all know the benefits of maintaining a positive outlook – lower blood pressure, less stress, better mood, etc. I even teach others how to improve their life by managing their thoughts. Unfortunately, my bouts of positivity can sometimes be short-lived. All might be well for a few daysContinue reading “Lost in Negativity: Rediscovering the Habit of Positive Thinking”
Your Thoughts Are Not Facts
Learn how to tell the difference Photo by Andrew George on Unsplash Many of us mistake our thoughts for actual facts: “I’ll never make that much money” (thought). “I’m fat” (thought). When we believe those thoughts to be true, we feel locked into our current circumstances: “I’ll never make that much money” = “I’ll alwaysContinue reading “Your Thoughts Are Not Facts”
How To Stop Controlling The People You Love
Our feelings are not the result of how our loved ones act, it’s a result of us believing they should be acting differently.
Emotional Independence: How to Let Go of External Validation and Own Your Feelings.
In other words, how to stop being a chameleon. How it started If you were a child that was raised in a volatile household you may have learned to adopt certain habits as a means of self-preservation… Habits like trying to behave the right way, say the right things or even make yourself invisible inContinue reading “Emotional Independence: How to Let Go of External Validation and Own Your Feelings.”
Breaking Free From People–Pleasing
Choosing the Art of Authentic Connection Photo by Aditya Saxena on Unsplash At face value, people–pleasing may not sound like a problem. There are times we may choose to do something nice for someone out of genuine appreciation or love. Not a problem. But sometimes we do it in order to gain something in returnContinue reading “Breaking Free From People–Pleasing”